The Beginning

There are so many wonderful blogs I have read and kept up with that gave me the strength to become comfortable with who I am. I would have liked to follow many from the beginning of the journey and that being the case I thought I should start mine from just that....the beginning. It took me a long time to get here but I am excited for what the future holds.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Newbie Question About Corner Time

My dom and are still having a lot of conversations regarding the path in which our relationship is taking. We are finding ourselves more comfortable with D/s each day but we were both initially reluctant when it comes to DD. At first he said he would never do punishment spankings but I think we will eventually be headed in that direction. (We have not yet talked to much about the spanking I posted about earlier today, but I am sure we will). I have come to realize I think we would be happier if we did go this way but it is up to him if that is how we will proceed. We talked about corner time yesterday and he did say he did not feel that was our relationship. He actually thought he wouldn't be able to do that without laughing. I'll be honest the thought of being sent to the corner has absolutely no appeal to me (why should it, it's a punishment) but I am wondering how many of you utilize this practice and if you do did you start from the beginnign or was it just something you worked your way into? If you don't mind sharing I would like to hear about your experience in this area.



  1. We don't use corner time at our house, dancingbarez. Joy tells me that it makes her feel too much like a child, and as for me, I find it an ineffective discipline for her. Might work okay for you guys, though--every relationship is different!

  2. It will only be effective if you both take it seriously it sounds like its not something he would? As you said the point of punishment is its not meant to be liked, i see corner time as a time to reflect on why i am being punished, to accept the punishment he chooses to use.....its never just corner time.

    Its not something that occurs all the time, he uses it when he thinks i need it, perhaps if im in the frame of mind where i dont think i deserve to be punished....he wont punish me if i dont or wont acknowledge that i deserve do so would defeat the purpose of punishment.

    Im going off track sorry lol...bottom line is i think with corner time you need to both agree what its purpose is it to reflect or is it actual punishment itself?

    tori x

  3. I have no opinion on corner time as we don't do punishment stuff. I just wanted to say Hey and I found you. (Waving) Hey Girl!!!!

  4. I'm not a huge fan of corner time. We do it sometimes, other times we don't. There's no rhyme or reason to it, just whatever Cael feels like. Sometimes he uses it as punishment, sometimes he'll send me there while we're playing, just 'cuz he can. I always feel so childish being sent there but I suppose that's the point. Lucky for me Cael dislikes me there for too long because it means he can't spend time with me either!

    It's up to you really! Personally, I don't spend time reflecting while I'm there. I just think over-and-over again, "This is so awkward." I don't know if it's effective for me but for others it may be helpful.

  5. Spankings, humiliation, whatever, most of it's appealing to me, so if its an actual "I need you to understand to correct this!" area, he has to get somewhat inventive. I know we didn't start out using corner time, but when our relationship started involving more M/s elements, it just kind of happened when he was trying to find an effective punishment. I've also been set to writing lines, and I'm pretty sure he has more ideas if they're needed.

    No, I don't really think about correcting the behavior while standing there, but I do remember how bad it sucked the next time I'm tempted to repeat a similar behavior.

  6. I think corner time -- like most D/s things -- depends on the individual couple. It works for some, but not for others. each couple has to decide what works for them.


  7. I have been threatened but I have not had it. I do get "bedroom time" which means I have to lay on the bed for fifteen minutes and wait for him. After bedroom time sometimes I get a spanking but not always.

  8. For what it's worth, Daddy has never sent me to a corner.


  9. I think corner time is just for you:
    Your Dom will get the giggles and forget what he was angry for.
    There you have it.....

  10. Corner time... no don't think that would work. Mind you there aren't too many corners here that don't have something else shoved in them already. No, generally He thinks of something diabolical and appropriate... read that as really not enjoyable for one of us. Mostly though these days one just gets "the look" or "the eyebrow" :(


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