The Beginning

There are so many wonderful blogs I have read and kept up with that gave me the strength to become comfortable with who I am. I would have liked to follow many from the beginning of the journey and that being the case I thought I should start mine from just that....the beginning. It took me a long time to get here but I am excited for what the future holds.


Wednesday, April 25, 2012

My ankle got me spanked/collar opinion

Yes, I know the title of this post is all over the place but I have a story to tell and I need your opinion so just go with it.

Last Spring I broke my ankle over the weekend and pretty much acted like nothing happened until the following Monday when I finally dragged myself in for an x-ray and to face the fact that I would need to be in a cast for the beginning of the Summer. I hate casts and pretty much only wore it for about 3 weeks before taking it off on my own at home and letting things ride. Yes, I got the typical warnings from many friends but just smiled and said I was doing just fine, until I broke the same ankle again in December. The injury was much worse but I was just as stubborn and actually refused a hard cast and made due with a soft brace and lots of rest. Needless to say I rolled my ankle twice since then and actually tore a tendon not to long ago, the pain was so intense I had no choice but to call Daddy from work and tell him what happened. Of course, he rushed to my work and took me back to the Doctor refusing to sit in the waiting room so he could here what the Dr. had to say first hand. He smiled at me smugly as the Dr. went on about physical therapy, daily exercises and flats for the next 8 weeks. These were all things I were told back in December with the exception that at that time I still had the ability to No and to be quite honest I exercised that right freely. I held back tears as the Dr. went on and just knew I had no choice but to follow the directions I was being given.

Daddy and I spoke about it at length, I bargained, begged and pleaded but he shut me down every time. Then one day he caved......a little. I had to wear the brace we purchased everyday until bed time, no wedges and the daily exercises provided must be done but I did not have to endure the actual physical therapy appointments if I kept up with everything else. No problem, thank you Sir!

The work days get busy, the kids need to be driven places and lo and behold the first thing to get pushed aside each night is the exercises. To be quite precise I had only done them twice since we came to an agreement. Daddy mentioned it from time to time but did not outright ask about it and pretty much let it go. Unfortunately the more he let it go the more I put it out of my head (just ignore it and it will surely go away).

Now it's no secret that I have been getting spanked a lot lately. I could actually count the days I have not been spanked over the last two weeks with one hand and a few fingers to spare, but things were looking up. I did not get spanked on Monday and we were both really busy with life so there was no way I could screw anything up. I settled into bed that evening while on the phone with Daddy and there came the question.

When was the last time you did your ankle exercises?
Silence

Then I got a nice long lecture about trust, broken promises, him wanting to be able to run with me and the kids on the beach and disappointment. It made me feel like crap. I started thinking about all the nights we sat on the phone when I could have easily been sitting on the edge bed doing what he asked for my own damn good.

Skip to Tuesday and me bare bottomed over his knee, again. The spanking was really fast with absolutely no time to adjust between spanks. I was moving a lot but it was over in the blink of an eye. I tried to lay there for a minute to catch my breath but he wanted me dressed and sitting as soon as possible..."no comfort" he said curtly and then I just lost it. I was hysterical, almost hyperventilating. I crawled onto his lap and he stroked my hair and he asked me to stop crying and then he said it hurt him as much as it hurt me and he didn't like to punish me (not really sure about that) and he just talked to me until I calmed and all was right with the world.

Tada, guess who did their ankle exercises last night.

Anyway, later on we were talking and shopping on line. We were looking at fun stuff like clamps, beds and stocks and all of sudden he pulled up a collar pictured below. He asked if I liked it and told me it was something he would like to buy for me to wear all the time as a symbol of our Owner/Slave relationship. I have to say I am truly touched by the sentiment and would be more than happy to wear this full time. I am not quite sure it will get me spanked any less but I did get the feeling that he thought it would help me stay more on task when he could not be with me.


I do like this collar but I am wondering if the ring gives it away too much for the professional work setting. I personally think, if you don't know, you wouldn't know and if you do know then you probably won't care too much .... but please let me know your thoughts.

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  1. The collar is beautiful. As for a professional setting, if you have a good answer for the question what is the ring on the front for you might be able to get away with it.

    I don't have a collar per se, but I wear two necklaces that Musicman gave me. I never take them off and am constantly touching them, especially if I'm stressed. I guess they are the vanilla version of a collar.

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    1. I really love the collar as well, we originally thought about regular jewelry but I believe Daddy wants something more. I'm definately the minority I reallty thought his looked like jewelry.

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  2. It is a pretty collar, but I'm not sure if it's okay to wear in a professional setting. I'll be anxious to read what others say. I think faerie makes a good point about having a good answer if the questions come up, though:).

    Love,
    Kitty

    P.S. I'm so sorry about your ankle! I really hope you're able to get better soon.

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    1. LOL, I wracked my brain for a good answer on the ring and could not come up with one thing.

      I think my ankle is getting a bit better, I should have just taken care of it in the first place.

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  3. It's lovely, but the ring is a bit heavy, and even with a tag would be hard to explain. One if my friends just got this one, http://www.ringofsteel.net/covertpp.html, which looks more ....mainstream (?. The meaning is clear to someone in the know, but has passed in both her professional circle - she's a counselor - and with her family.

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    1. Thanks June. I really liked the one in the picture....maybe we can buy two and switch them out. One of the reviews did say it was a heavy collar.

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  4. I hope your ankle heals up soon! This is just my personal opinion, but I think it looks like a collar. I think I would have known what it was even before I knew I was into ttwd. That'd be my only worry! But maybe that's just me :) I have a lace choker from my boyfriend, it's delicate and sweet, I wear it sometimes for him. He likes it. It isn't a permanent thing, but it's enough that he knows what it is but subtle so that the rest of the world thinks it's a cute little necklace, I get compliments too! On that thought, I'm not sure I'd wear my lace to work. Humm, will have to think on this one.

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    1. LOL, glad I gave you something to think about on the choker. To be honest I think he wanted something a little less subtle but it seems everybody agrees this is a bit obvious so I will keep looking and make some suggestions.

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  5. I wear an ear cuff at all times for H. That was our compromise. I have a slave collar and several tight necklaces that I will wear on various date nights. The slave collar I have only worn out in public once and that was to signify to H that I was ready. But I turned the slave words inside out. Hehe.

    I don't know if you live in a small town or a large urban area, but in our metro area, you could get away with that one. I would wear it to work. And yes, some people would know what it was, but I am guessing they wouldn't want to tell anyone how they know.

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    1. LOL, that's what I thought, if people knew they would not dare say anything. We live in a pretty uptight surburban area so I'm not sure what people woudl know. I like the ear cuff idea a lot.

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  6. I don't think I am qualified to give an opinion. It is a beautiful piece but I never wear necklaces and it would be too heavy for me to wear for any length of time.

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    1. I never waer necklaces either so I bet this would feel heavy to me too. I think the point was I needed a heavy reminder.

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  7. I think the collar looks great. But I'm not sure. I think it probably would pass as unnoticed but you'd most likely be forever paranoid lol. If however, you normally wear things that are a little bit different and unique, then I don't think anyone would bat an eyelid. Sorry about your ankle, but you really should do those exercises y'know.

    Dee x

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    1. You are right, I would be paranoid all the time. I usually wear a lot of bohemian stuff that people consider unique so this may not put anybody on alert but one never knows. Trust me, I am doing the excerses now.

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  8. Hi there, for my profession, it would not be easily accepted. The healthcare world can be pretty uptight. Why not consider a beautiful gold (white or yellow) maybe rollo type links that is permanently closed by the jeweler? You would wear a lovely piece of "jewelry" for vanilla eyes and a collar. By selecting a necklace with the larger links, tags, charms or a leash could be attached and detached. Just a thought...

    I am sorry you got in trouble over your ankle but wearing the protective devices and exercises are so important. BTW, another really good activity for the recovery, massage. Really. Feels great and truly strengthens the muscles and tendons.
    Love, Isabella

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    1. Thanks for both suggestions Isabella. I did not know massage helps the tendons and muscles. I got back on the treadmill last night (just walking) and that felt good too.

      I also did not even think of having a jeweler make something permanent but it sounds like a good idea.

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  9. As a collar, great! But, in a professional setting, I personally wouldn't wear it. It seems too recognizable to me, not subtle enough for my everyday taste, but that's just my opinion.

    Keep up those exercises! You'll be glad you did, for a few reasons. ;)

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    1. You are right Grace, both my ankle and my bottom aere feeling a little better today.

      The search for the perfect collar continues.

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  10. I love contemporary, minimalist jewelry. If I saw you wearing this collar, I never would have known that's what it was.
    I would advise against anything permanent in case you had to have a medical procedure that required removing "jewelry."
    Not going to say a word about the ankle. Lol.

    Kiki

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  11. I wear a permanent collar from Wyred Slave. It is finally broken in so it now sits nicely. Before this it was a stiff oval that always wanted to sit sideways. The problems is it does catch hair, so my hair is short in the back. We have a separate ring that can slide on and it is quite possible to slip any kind of decorative dangle, but I seldom do. I wear it everywhere and no one has questioned me about it nor looked at me funny.. . I also wear other jewellery to co-ordinate with it.
    We have been looking for other even more suitable models, but I think the one shown is a little obvious.

    You would benefit by learning to do your own self trigger release massage. It will quicken healing and possibly prevent more problems.

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  12. Well one wears a lighter version of that for work and... the only people who question it are those in the know. Everyone else says nice necklace or asks where it came from. To which one usually replies vaguely that it came from America. It shuts them up and ends the conversation.

    Having said all of that one should add that one works in a notoriously conservative industry... no clunky jewelry, no piercings, not tats, no outrageous hair colours... the list goes on. Hell we still have to wear stockings with skirts... and no one has ever said anything about the collar. So maybe consider one of the lighter versions of that :)

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  13. I personally refused to wear a collar when my boyfriend asked me. I work with people and kids on a daily bases. It just doesn't work for me. I did however agree to wear what is called a slave bracelet. It looks like a regular piece of jewelry and doesn't cause problems at work. If you google them you can see what they look like. My boyfriend let me make mine to fit my style but they can be bought in some stores or online. - poetgrl

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  14. its pretty it actually looks just like a choker neckles.

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  15. houseofcollars.com has a very similar collar for 75$ and the D/O rings are removable.:) Maybe you could look into that, I've also heard ringofsteel.com collars are good, but since Master got mine from HOC, I can only speak from personal experience. I wear it 24/7 and have never had any issues when the ring is removed.

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