tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post2227976193611618456..comments2023-10-14T10:59:10.996-04:00Comments on Under his Thumb: Wanting More Paindancingbarezhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-4275905153119167412012-03-14T14:39:42.050-04:002012-03-14T14:39:42.050-04:00I am so glad you get it. It's tough to wrap yo...I am so glad you get it. It's tough to wrap your head around when it's new.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-23333287934813932832012-03-14T14:38:56.498-04:002012-03-14T14:38:56.498-04:00Oh FD you are so right. It is who I am. We do need...Oh FD you are so right. It is who I am. We do need to talk about a safeword....right now he just tells me to tell him to stop if its too much.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-45559870906043985172012-03-14T14:37:22.393-04:002012-03-14T14:37:22.393-04:00Yes that is what is great about ttwd, it is differ...Yes that is what is great about ttwd, it is different all the time and there are so many great people to blog with. I too feel like the minute I have one desire sated a new one pops up.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-46768266390873672632012-03-14T14:35:56.222-04:002012-03-14T14:35:56.222-04:00This was a great question. I wrote a post around i...This was a great question. I wrote a post around it today.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-59871572495733975342012-03-14T14:35:14.281-04:002012-03-14T14:35:14.281-04:00You do never know. I'm thinking one day I will...You do never know. I'm thinking one day I will bite off more than I can chew, LOL.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-87747971167303798542012-03-14T14:34:25.578-04:002012-03-14T14:34:25.578-04:00I agree with you on addictive note. I seem to crav...I agree with you on addictive note. I seem to crave more on the mental side and sometimes I have a hrader time accepting that part of it. It is always easier to give others advice but I find it helpful too. Your comments were very thopughful and gave me a lot to think about.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-33044182262529680552012-03-14T14:32:14.436-04:002012-03-14T14:32:14.436-04:00Your post was great. I'm sure you saw my comme...Your post was great. I'm sure you saw my comment. We can lean on each other.dancingbarezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05159330409168648147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-60899858208391446552012-03-13T21:56:15.941-04:002012-03-13T21:56:15.941-04:00"I want to not want to do what he is telling ..."I want to not want to do what he is telling me to do and have to do it anyway."<br /><br />Lol, oh yes--it makes sense.Stormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12613795542678253943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-65020088828319521242012-03-10T06:23:25.351-05:002012-03-10T06:23:25.351-05:00You make perfect sense. You want pain but you aren...You make perfect sense. You want pain but you aren't sure how far you want to go. Do you have a safeword? Having one might be a good idea so he knows that if you cry but don't use the safeword, you still want or need or can take more. Good luck on your journey. And don't feel scared. This is who you are. Wanting pain is normal for you.<br /><br />FDFlorida Domhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08785387941624829985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-66013650537723541742012-03-08T22:58:12.293-05:002012-03-08T22:58:12.293-05:00I hope you're able to get what you need/want. ...I hope you're able to get what you need/want. One thing that amazes me is that my desires change as time goes on. Right now, I don't see such a need for pain for myself, but I'm open to change. That's one thing I'm enjoying about ttwd. It doesn't have to stay exactly the same.<br /><br />Love,<br />KittyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-34660562630692710152012-03-08T22:41:35.946-05:002012-03-08T22:41:35.946-05:00Dear Tori, Thank you for such an honest and candid...Dear Tori, Thank you for such an honest and candid post. I learn so much from everyone and become stronger for my L. Does it ever scare you or get to the feeling that you might get overwhelmed?<br />Love, IsabellaMolded By Himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13858516037231474603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-74714739680181622292012-03-08T13:51:51.312-05:002012-03-08T13:51:51.312-05:00I think being a little taken aback by the need for...I think being a little taken aback by the need for pain (on both sides) is normal.<br /><br />My husband has said the same thing a couple of times - he thinks I would probably handle more than he's given me thus far, but he's not willing to risk damaging me.<br /><br />I think those sorts of thoughts are common enough in any relationship - maybe not regarding pain, but whatever one partner needs from the other... you just never know, do you?Coninahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12267844904414770524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-90025973647458487712012-03-08T13:17:02.921-05:002012-03-08T13:17:02.921-05:00My first D/s relationship ended for a few reasons ...My first D/s relationship ended for a few reasons but one factor that made me realise it wasnt going to last is my need for pain was more than he felt comfortable giving....please dont think this means it applies to you both....he was a dom with experience but we simply wasnt compatible so i dont think its just new doms that have these thoughts.<br /><br />On the other side of the coin i have been with my Master 5 years and my masochism does not come close to his level of sadism (he is far more experienced than myself) and its something i have and still do on occassions fret about...ie am i enough for him.<br /><br />I guess my point is this is something you need to explore together and as you said yourself its not something you have really delved into. It seems clear that he does have sadistic tendencies as you stated yourself and the great thing is you are both on the same level so its all new to both of you....and i think thats an advantage.<br /><br />My masochistic needs scare me because of how much i crave pain and how far will i go.<br /><br />It is intense because i think sometimes the need to be controlled physically as well as mentally can be almost addictive...the more control they exert the more its craved and so it goes on and on...<br /><br /><br />Enjoy exploring and try not to focus on how far will it go..just enjoy the moments as they happen and go from there......and i will try to practice what i preach lol....damn why is always so easier to give others advice and thoughts but not apply them to yourself!<br /><br />tori xxtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6051310541726101593.post-90017112501702058712012-03-08T12:38:07.101-05:002012-03-08T12:38:07.101-05:00Oh DB, I have been having very very similar though...Oh DB, I have been having very very similar thoughts myself. In fact, I have been trying all morning to get my thoughts to clear enough to write. My house is sparkling clean but I'm not sure the thoughts are so clear, lol. I will probably be surprised at what does come out when I start writing, I usually am.faerie wingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749617812384896845noreply@blogger.com